Boost your bond with … your husband:
Back away from the
BlackBerry. If you’re texting or emailing while talking to your husband,
you’re essentially saying that message is more important than him, says
Dr. Dale Atkins, a New York City-based psychologist. Drop the gadget
and focus on your partner. And make sure he does the same.
Boost your bond with … your boss:
Tweak your thinking. You
can’t change your boss, but you can alter your reactions, says Atkins.
If you get nervous talking to him or her, do a quick relaxation exercise
before approaching. Breathe deeply, and practice a positive mind-state
mantra. Say to yourself: “I’m anxious, but I’ll get through this,”
instead of, “This is terrible; I know I’m going to trip over my words!”
Boost your bond with … your sister:
Create a new connection.
Adult siblings clash because of childhood roles, explains Atkins. Talk
about life now -- discuss your respective hobbies, jobs and kids. If
your sister launched a scrapbooking business, for instance, don’t make
fun of her just because she’s Little Sis. Instead, ask her to share her
vision with you.
Boost your bond with … your kids:
Explain your reasoning.
Avoid being critical or judgmental when asking children to do something,
advises Atkins. Instead, tell them why a task is important to you. If
your preteen won’t clean her room, explain that cleaning her room helps
her learn responsibility and pride.